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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They are showing their love through gift giving. Very likely that is their love language even if it’s not yours. Graciously accept but don’t feel bad regifting or donating. Seriously. I was in a profession for many years where people gave a lot of mugs and housewares. I regifted and donated the things I didn’t like/need. Everyone does it at some point. [/quote]

Imposing stuff/junk on people when they have repeatedly asked you to stop is not "showing their love." It is disrespect. Love is not shown through material things. I find it fascinating that so many people justify imposing stuff people don't want on them as being anything related to love. The whole 'love language" think is bullshit mumbo jumbo. There are a million ways you show love and none have to do with buying crap...here are a few...visit a loved one in the hospital, write a letter, write a thank you note, tell the person how much he/she means to you, offer to do the dishes...whatever. Sorry, you have to be really messed up to think love involves material things that people don't want and have asked you not to give.[/quote]

Do you consider repeatedly kissing someone when they told you to stop love? At least a kiss doesn't destroy the environment. Yet, no matter how amorous you feel, if the other person told you they don't like it and don't want it, you need to keep you lovin lips to yourself.[/quote]

Exactly.  And when they talk sh*t about you being the weirdo of the family and they don't know what your problem is, and how everyone else is totally fine with it, except you - You need to just let it all roll off your back like water.  When it's that aggressive and unending, despite repeated protests, that is pretty much the opposite of love, that is a weapon.[/quote]

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