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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You keep the current visitation schedule and if they refuse to visit, as soon as they turn 18/court order allows it you cut off money to mom and renegotiate a relationship with your child.  No contact, no money.

If they want college paid for then they show you all paperwork and depending on the options or costs you offer 1/3 (you, mom and child share expenses) or 1/2 (you and mom) or what you can afford.  With that, you get a copy regularly of all grades and weekly phone calls or text.  And, visits at holidays/summers.  If they refuse, they can figure it out with mom as they are adults now.  If they want to be your child and gain from you financially, they need to behave accordingly.  And, make sure you see all paperwork (speaking from experience).
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This all sounds reasonable - but it doesn’t address how to decide in which household they should reside after the turn 18 and are graduated from hs. [/quote]

I would assume if they are in college, they split holidays/summers or make some kind of arrangement for summers if child is working.  If they graduate, more than likely they wouldn't be living at home and living in the dorms.  Otherwise, kid can get a job to pay for their needs and choose who/how to live but Dad should not continue to pay child support after 18/no college.[/quote]

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