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If you don't complain, you deserve what you get, OP. Don't expect people to guess.

I make sure everyone knows what my expectations are: that everyone enjoy the break; that everyone help clean the house, decorate, [b]express appreciation for the special food[/b], help pick Christmas movies (not sappy or embarrassing ones because I hate those) and at least tolerate the Christmas music I put on (teens and Gregorian chants? I haven't given up!). I don't want or expect gifts, because I prefer buying my own, but DH gets me a little something.

Communication and assertiveness are essential to a happy life, OP. I suspect you're afraid to exert your parental and spousal authority, and they walk all over you all year. Kind of late to change that dynamic, but you should try.

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Even if they don’t like it?  Don’t care about it?  Aren’t interested in eating it?[/quote]
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Chances are they are eating it. Even if the Christmas stolen isn’t their favorite they should always say thank you and show appreciation. Come on! Christmas is once a year! And really, they should’ve polite year round - but especially on Christmas! [/quote][/b]

This right here is why some people struggle with the holidays.  You want an extra show of appreciation because of a certain day on the calendar?  Perhaps I'm in perimenopause, struggling with PMDD, and have SAD.  It's tough to show up every day, much less show enthusiasm for a piece of bread.  [/quote]

So menopause/SAD/PMDD means you can’t say “thank you” if someone makes you breakfast? [/quote]

You want a simple "thank you"?  Sure, I happily say thank you and show appreciation any tjme someone else in the house makes a meal. If you want me to pretend everything is holly and jolly and perfect, well, no.  Get your xmas wet dreams somewhere else. [/quote]

Nothing is perfect. [b]But usually Christmas is a time of joy. [/b]If you cannot feel joy around the Holidays when everyone around you is joyful, then you have to ask yourself whether the issue might not come from within. In that case, you can't really fault the Holiday, can you?

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Why? I don't believe in Christ. [/quote]

And no, everyone around me is not joyful.  This year I can't be around the people I love the most. Other years I have to pretend to be around my DH's family who doesn't seem particularly happy either. [/quote]

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