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[quote=Anonymous]This is the major wedge in our marriage.  I do most of the housework/chores, etc., but my husband is under the impression that he equally helps out. He does not. Here's what my husband does: dishes, takes out trash/recycling, helps out with bedtime/bathtime, takes the dog for one out of two daily walks, and helps the older one with her homework, and pays the bills (most of those are on autopayment). That's it. Those six things and makes dinner from time to time. I do EVERYTHING else, yet in his head he's doing much more than those above mentioned items.  I do all the cleaning, organizing, deep cleaning, laundry, de-cluttering. I don't think my husband has cleaned a toilet maybe ever. Not sure he knows what a baseboard is or why one would need to be wiped down from time to time. If it were not for me, my children would be living under a mountain of clutter with things completely disorganized and in disarray. I do most of the cooking, except for a few dinner items that he prefers to make. I do the majority of the food shopping except now his big thing is Target curbside pick-ups, so he'll place those and pick them up. I make all the appointments, registrations for things like camp etc., school forms, extracurricular activities. I buy the kids clothes, bday gifts, whatever it is they need for school, for sports, etc. Sure my husband will take them to activities, but never actually plans for any of this. I arrange for all the house maintenance if something needs repair or upkeep. We have someone mow our lawn and trim bushes, but we don't have 50 acres and honestly one of us could do it. I do light house type work, like painting or touch-ups or hanging pictures, fixing a loose fixture--like stuff you'd except the DH to do. Family trips? He'll make the airline arrangements and I do everything else (pack the kids, pack the car, etc.). And we both work full-time. I've come to accept that this is the way it is. It would just be nice if he acknowledged that this is not a 50/50 split, but I've given up on that now.  [/quote]

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