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[quote=Anonymous]At what stage? If you're just dating, there is no need to reveal your medical history. What's important is to be crystal clear that you do not want children. At all. In no way. As long as you're saying "I do not want children" then you're fine.

I would think the vasectomy would come up organically, usually around a birth control discussion? I feel like in most of my relationships, there's been a bit of a birth control/STDs discussion that went along with dropping the condom, after we've been dating a long time and are a well established couple. This might be a natural time to bring it up, particularly as it means that, assuming she's been taking birth control, she may want to stop, so it seems helpful to mention.

Certainly, if it hasn't come up and you're approaching engagement, you should definitely make sure to mention it. But it feels like if you are approaching engagement and it HASN'T come up, you're hiding.

I guess the big thing is - don't hide it, bring it up where relevant, but you don't need to like walk into a first date and say "Hi, I'm Larlo. I've had a vasectomy."[/quote]

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