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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you're going to get a lot of heated responses here and it will be complicated to sift through them all, but know this:

You will be OK regardless of whatever you choose to do, and you have every right to make the choice that suits you. I have been in a similar position with much less clarity, and I can say that you will "what if" either decision, but you will also get on with your life and be OK.

Termination this early is a medical procedure that stop cells from growing in your body. Being on the same page with your DH about this is fortunate. If you terminate, you would be able to feel secure in the family that you do have, and guarantee that family security and consistency and all that comes with that. Even with the confident decision to terminate, you may have wistful feelings in the future at certain dates, but you may also feel empowered and positive about this decision and what it has affirmed for you....and you may feel both things (or you may never think of it again).

Choosing to continue the pregnancy would almost certainly result in coming to love your new family, but also comes with risk of things you are aware of, and disruption of all the kinds new babies can bring. You are not obligated to see this through if you do not want to. I repeat: you are NOT obligated to see an unwanted pregnancy through for anyone else and you are NOT a bad person for terminating at this early stage for any reason. But if you do want to have another baby you will be ok.

Each decision is a roll of the dice. Think ahead 2, 5, 20 years....
- did you terminate and it didn't affect you much?
- did you terminate and wonder if you made the right choice a few times a year?
- did you terminate and it destroyed you (does not sound like you)
- did you have a baby and now you have three thriving kids?
- did you have a baby and now that third kid has special needs that have impacted you emotionally and financially?

Go with your gut and feel empowered. You can do this, either way, and don't let DCUM try to tell you what is best.

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