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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Saying this as someone who ended up separating from their spouse.   I feel like 6 weeks of counseling isn't a whole lot; we spent over a year trying to work on our issues before realizing things were not reparable and parting ways.  Had my STBXW made that same type of realization that your husband did 6 weeks in, I'd have been ecstatic.[/quote]
Thank you, I have heard that too, that it takes awhile especially when things have built up over many years of marriage. I do want to keep going but I also want to maximize the time we are there and try better to understand what I need to see/hear from him and what will help me let go of this resentment -- or make me realize that I can't. I am also in my own individual therapy and it feels like the more I center myself, what I want/need, what I deserve, and how I've been hurt, that I feel less able to move forward with him. [/quote]

*armchair psychologist here.* why do you have to "let go of the resentment"?  maybe it's how you react to the resentment, and not the resentment itself.  the resentment may be telling you something about what you need and what's happening to you.  [/quote]

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