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[quote=Anonymous]OP, NP here.  I can completely understand being driven crazy by a mother or a parent.  Here's my thoughts:

1) People who have a healthy home life or who grew up in normal families or who have never experienced it are difficult to talk to about it, so I would say, don't even bother.  They really won't get it.  A don't let them guilt you into "oh, repair your relationship now, she could be dead soon"  It's more complicated than that.
2) It's not you.  Seriously, I needed someone to say that to me.  I am normal, and my mother is manipulative, codependent, alcoholic drama queen.  However awesome I am with relationships, it ain't gonna fix her side.
3) Distance is your friend, either physical or mental.  Don't be friends with her on FB.  Don't spend as much time with her, or spend the amount that feels right, even if it's once a year or less.  Don't call as often.  This helped me tremendously--less opportunity to be disappointed.

good luck and I'm sorry you didn't win the parent lottery.  Two other thoughts:
1) Therapy might be a good idea if you feel it necessary
2) you can try to be a better, more balanced parent, and your kids will never have to experience that, so lucky them.[/quote]

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