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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]34 yo here- I would have said to the boy "you better sit down or you're going to fall." I don't mind people speaking up to my kids. Some women go too far though with preaching to you though. A woman got in a nasty debate on my facebook moms group recently about prenatal vitamins. She says moms who took gummy don't care enough about their babies. Other moms screamed back that they had hyperemesis or whatever. Or debates over a lovey in the crib at 9 months.

I actually witnessed a heartbreaking scene a few weeks ago. A car seat was on top of a shopping cart and the car seat fell and landed face down. The baby was strapped in thankfully. But it was an infant <1 month old and was screaming so much his face was blue. The mom just plopped him back on the cart. We tried to help (my shopping companion was an OB), but there was a language barrier too. We could tell the mom cared about the baby though. I had wanted to say something and didn't before the baby fell. I've been thinking a lot about it and why I didn't speak up. I feel like I didn't want to be patronizing (she was poor, very young and an immigrant) so I didn't speak up, when I normally do. The baby clearly could have died. [/quote]

Last year, I watched a toddler stand up on the seat and cause the cart to flip over on him. It happened in seconds and another witness and I ran over as the mom stood frozen in horror. The boy was so frightened that it took a bit for him to start screaming. He had a gash on his forehead that was pouring blood. I pulled out my phone and called 911. At that, the mom freaked and grabbed the child away from us. She ran out of the store. I want to believe she took him to the ER herself, but I think she might have been afraid of the authorities. [/quote]

These types of injuries are very common.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24351504/

I am a safety researcher...who has to bite my tongue often throughout the day, seeing the risks that uninformed parents take. I speak up SOMETIMES (not often). It is always a crapshoot about whether they will appreciate it or get defensive/angry. I only step in if I fear that the kid is in serious/imminent danger.

People take umbrage when they perceive you as saying they aren't good parents (or that you care about their child more than they do)

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"The annual concussion/closed head injury rate per 10 000 children [u]increased significantly[/u] (P < .001) by 213.3% [b][u]from 0.64 in 1990 to 2.02 in 2011.[/u][/b]"

Thank you for posting this factual information. I find it relevant the increase of head injuries from 1990 to 2011.  Perhaps there is correlation to the increase of mothers who seem to indeed get angry and defensive at others' warnings.  Results?  Could it partially be because, like you, people no longer speak up due to hostile maternal reactions.  Yet the children are increasingly getting hurt. Now THAT would be worth a study.

"The annual concussion/closed head injury rate per 10 000 children increased significantly (P < .001) by 213.3% [b]from 0.64 in 1990 to 2.02 in 2011.[/b]" [/quote]

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