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[quote=Anonymous]No, I don't work for a school -- I'm a parent too.  In fact, I'm the PP who gave the corporate lawyer daddy's well-behaved Beauvoir daughter example.   So, yes, I believe (as I have stated) that schools have their own interests and constraints and these can enter into the mix.

That said, I think that the poster I was responding to (Ms. Maybe Some People Drink the Koolaid but *I* Know Better)  sounded like an unselfcritical jerk and was giving really bad advice.

It's worth listening to and seriously considering what your kid's school is telling you about your kid and about other schools.  They know things you don't (obviously, about other schools -- less obviously, about your own kid who may behave differently at school than at home or who may "read" differently to people who have a lot of experience with kids of a certain age than she does to her own parents).

And if you don't think you should listen to and take seriously what your kid's school has to say when you're at the exmissions stage, well then you've been a fool to leave your kid in that school for so many years.  And maybe you shouldn't be so confident of your judgment re what school's best in this next round -- clearly you picked a dud last time.  So if you don't trust your school's exmissions people, talk to a teacher you do trust, hire a consultant, or whatever.  In short, seek help because you clearly don't know it all.

Again, none of this means that, in the end, you can't or shouldn't make a different choice than the one the school's exmissions officer would make for your kid.  What it means is that your decisionmaking process (and perhaps even the options available to you) will be better if you don't start out so paranoid and dismissive.

I don't assume that the PP I responded to was the OP and I see why the OP is annoyed/concerned about unanswered emails.  I don't know what the emails were about so I have no guess why they've gone unanswered.  If I were dealing with that scenario, I'd call or speak to the person directly and just ask what's up -- e.g. am I asking the wrong questions, the wrong person, the wrong way.  If you're accusatory (why don't you answer my emails?) you're less likely to improve the situation than if you ask what you can do to make it easier for this person to help you. [/quote]

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