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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the MOH for a wedding shortly after New Year. The rest of the bridal party dropped out. I'm the last one standing. The bride is my sister. I really REALLY do not want to do this.  It involves travel and lots of indoor socializing with lots of people in a state that's in COVID denial and hasn't limited gatherings or encouraged masks. But she's made it clear that she's getting married in a specific time and place, and if people don't show up, well she'll learn to accept the fact that her closest family and friends don't truly love her.
It is beyond selfish, and I don't know how to back out without ruining our relationship for life.[/quote]

I'll be honest --- if it were me, I'd think that the relationship was already ruined.  She is using emotional manipulation to try to get people to risk their health, and the health of others, for a party (NOT a wedding, since she can get married).  She is incredibly selfish.  Even if you go along, you'll always know that your sister was okay with you getting sick, maybe very sick, and maybe dying, for a non-essential, non-emergency event.  It would be one thing if she really wanted you to come and be one of two witnesses or something, but she's having a big wedding and reception, which is not remotely necessary or advisable.  [/quote]

+1. She's already ruined the relationship. There's no need to maintain a relationship with someone who is willing to put your life at risk for a party. Just cut her out and don't think twice. Life is too short to waste time on toxic people.[/quote]

+2. The best thing I ever did was cut toxic family members out of my life. I remember when I did it, everyone flipped out because no one had ever done such a thing. But since then, so many said they had wished they had done the same years ago. I have saved myself so many years of toxicity because I respected my own life.[/quote]

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