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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op I hope I can give you some sense of peace from both sides.  My dad died unexpectedly this summer.  He went to the hospital with what we thought was dehydration (common with a medical condition he had) and my mom wasn't allowed inside due to Covid (he did not have it).  We got a call 2 hours later saying he wasn't doing well and they were not sure why but were trying X, Y, and Z.  The doctor told my mom (I was with her) that he wasn't awake and couldn't form words but was moaning.  He told us to get to the hospital ASAP but he had passed by the time we got there 35 min later.  I still struggle knowing he died alone when he would have at least had my mom under normal times.  I struggle with wondering if he was scared or in pain.

Now from the other side.  I'm a nurse and have been working with Covid patients.  We almost always know when they are going to pass.  I, along with many of my coworkers, have held many hands during those last minutes giving them peace and companionship.  We remind them how much their family has loved them (we have usually gotten to know the family by that time) and what a wonderful life they've had.  We may talk about pets that are waiting for them.  Or other family members (several of sobbed while telling one elderly man his wife was waiting for him as she had passed the week before).  We know we aren't a substitution for family, but we try to make the passing as peaceful as possible.  They know how much they are loved.

I am nearly certain that I was not the only person deeply moved by your sharing these stories. Thank you. May your acts of humanity and compassion return to you and your family tenfold.[/quote]

Pp here.  Thank you that was very very kind of you.  I think in our way, when we've done what we can and still not going to get a favorable outcome, doing one last thing for the patient is what keeps us sane (ish).  We may not have been able to keep the patient alive, but hopefully we made the end less scary.  [/quote]

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