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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I refused to have kids on anyone else's time-table.  I don't care how much OTHER people want grandkids.  I was not going to get pregnant until *I* was ready for that, and all that entails.  They will live with the disappointment.

You need to talk to him about the house-buying.  What if ten years from now he is abusive and you have to divorce? You would have NOTHING.  Minimal education so difficulty getting a job that can support you, and no rights to the home.  If your parents are dead by then, where would you go?

Health comes before parties.  Is having a wedding reception more important to you than having your parents alive?  How would you feel if your parents got Covid at your wedding reception and it killed them?  Because that is something that happens.

Honeymoons often wait - 6 months, or six years after the wedding.  Isn't the important thing that you and your love are married, and not that you have a big party or a honeymoon?  It's the marriage that's important, not the wedding.

FYI, my SIL gave birth at 43 to a healthy baby with zero complications at all. Do not rush having a baby.[/quote]

[b]FYI I am 35 and cannot get pregnant. Thanks for your antedotal story[/b][/quote]

And you may have had problems getting pregnant at 23. People act like all your eggs suddenly shrivel at 30 or something. Age is a factor, but so are so many other things. [/quote]

+1. Most people with fertility issues at 35 had them the entire time...you are just finding out now. I got pregnant from one-time sex years apart between 33-37. People's eggs do not magically die at 30. Women have been having babies into their late 30s for hundreds of years. [/quote]

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