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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I went through something similar two years ago.  I tried and tried to forgive but just couldn’t so I accepted that I was always going to have hatred and anger toward the couple and that acceptance, strangely, made it easier to stop thinking about them.  They rarely cross my mind now.  I also never talk about them which helps and cut ties with anyone we had in common.  I’ve never once checked them on social media.  All that really did help.

[b]Then it occurs to me that even if I got a heartfelt apology - nothing would change.  The damage done was truly irreversible.  [/b]

“What is without remedy must be without regard.  What is done is done”.  [/quote]

This is good insight. OP, to move on, you need to stop valuing or giving any credibility this person's actions, behaviors, or yes, even potential apologies. There are people in my life who "owe" me an apology, but moving on meant I no longer respect anything, literally anything, about them. They could show up at my door with flowers, cash, a rescued stray dog and a thorough apology, and it'd be like watching Donald Trump claim he won the election. Nothing they have to say, and nothing they do, carries the slightest weight with me.

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OP here. I agree, this is really true. If this person tried to apologize, I know I'd never accept it. In part because I know there is a time when I probably would have accepted one, and rather than offer one, they chose to do something possibly even worse than the original offense. I often think I'm more angry about that than the original thing.

But yes, I agree with this sentiment. Feeling it... is another matter. I'm working on it.[/quote]

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