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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I totally understand where you are coming from.  The issue is not the coat or the notebooks, it is the emotional manipulation,  guilt trips, anger. It is exhausting.  Perhaps give your brother a lump sum - maybe $250? That's it. From the lump sum he must buy what he needs.

By the way, my sister and your brother are identical twins if you know what I mean. [/quote]

Okay, OP here. It’s not just the cost, but it is the unending asks and manipulation.  I was clear that direct costs to get into program was covered; I have spent about $800 on that so far.

I was expecting maybe some additional fees of $15/month that he would show was the extra expense from the treatment versus what he was using before; that was the accounting.

But now every other day, there is some problem (he’s cold, his pens don’t write well, his shoes hurt from walking more, etc) and the solution is to always buy something new, but he doesn’t even directly ask at first. First he complains (and all we ever talk about ever is his complaints, let’s be frank), then it’s “wishing” he had such and such, and after I don’t jump into fix it with a gift, in a few days it becomes a guilt trip that I promised to help and he wouldn’t have don’t this if he had known it would be so expensive but now he’s emotionally attached to his therapist and group...

I let my guard down, I gave an inch bc the therapist recommended it, and now he’s taking a mile. It’s not just the money (though that is a source of stress) but also the attention and complaining. His therapist is not much help bc he has many poor destitute patients, so if he can see a way for his patient to “save” money he encourages it, and I’m sure my brother paints me as a this rich urbanite who won’t even notice (he lives in a very poor rural state). [/quote]

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