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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don't have to be married to enjoy companionship. Getting married at his age is just asking for complications, and completely unnecessary.[/quote]

For some people, their religious beliefs will not allow them to share a bed with someone who isn't their spouse. I'm the pp immediately above and that was the case with my FIL and his new wife;  they wanted to be able to travel together but she said there's no way she'd share a bedroom with a man who wasn't her husband.[/quote]

Just throwing this out there that this is also how some (notice I said some) women manipulate men into marrying them so they can have control over their finances. I’d be very skeptical if I were OP that her father’s girlfriend has the best of intentions.[/quote]

If the woman is active in her church and goes often then this reason has a lot of merit. If she is not then I would be very concerned.  As other pp have suggested talk to your dad about speaking with a lawyer and making sure items that will affect your dad's care as he ages are taken care of as best as possible.  Do this openly. Do not hide what you are doing from the new wife.  You love your dad.  She loves your dad. She should have no issue with any of this if they are getting married for love.

I know you don't need the money but think about if there are any items from your mom that you would like.  Pictures, jewelry, photo albums, things in the china cabinet.  Talk to your dad about these items.  Figure out if these are items he can specifically list in a will or maybe just give you now.  You want to make sure it is clear that these items are special to you and you don't want them to be sold, tossed or donated.[/quote]

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