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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DCUMs just like to blame women for their lot in life. If you are divorced, it's your fault. Just make decisions based on what you can afford. If he agrees and then doesn't come through with the money, you will be stuck. [/quote]

No one is blaming anyone.  [b]Kid needs to go to their state school.[/b]  Mom will get child support till 21 that can be used to cover Dad's share.  Mom can also contribute and the rest can be financial aid or loans.  No one is owed college.  Don't pretend he's not contributing when he is paying child support.[/quote]

You must not go here.  OP states she lives in DC.  There is no state school.[/quote]

+1. As a PP mentioned, people are going to blame the mothers. Keep in mind that some have sgepkids that they don't feel responsible for.[/quote]

No one is blaming mom for anything.  Dad is paying child support.  That is his share for the child's expenses.  Mom should get child support and expenses.  And, what does her divorce decree say?  How much is she contributing outside of child support?[/quote]

I agreed to pay more than 50%.  Also, what he pays in child support is barely enough to feed my teenagers every month so I routinely pay the lion's share for their maintenance.  I am long overdue to revisit the child support award because he now makes more money than he did several years ago when it was first determined.  I have not done so because contrary to what you are implying, I am not an unreasonable money grubber.   However, after thinking about this more it seems the answer is to go back to court and get a significant increase in child support.  That way the government just takes it out of his check every month and I don't have to deal with his foolishness and chase after him.  [/quote]

Then do so. You haven’t yet said what the divorce decree says about his obligation to pay for college. The law in DC is clear - unless specified in the divorce degree he doesn’t have to pay. His conduct is telling you he won’t pay. So hire a lawyer and sue for changed circumstances but in this economic climate I doubt a family court judge is going to give you the satisfaction you want.[/quote]

I actually did say way back on the first page that the divorce decree does say he is obligated to pay.  So, based on your cracker jack legal research, under DC law he IS obligated to pay.  Thanks.  However, I believe I have been clear that I don't believe he intends to pay.

He has suffered no hardship due to COVID so why do you say I won't get a modified award?  Do you have some insight into the DC Superior Court that you would like to share?  Is a judge likely to not go along with the child support calculator and guidelines that make it clear what each party is obligated to pay based on income and expenses?  I believe the court is most interested in the "best interests of the child" and if their father is financially able to provide more support, why wouldn't the court order it?  Because you don't like it?

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What does obligated to pay?  What does COVID have to do with it.  Child support and expenses are two different things.  After age 18, a "child" is an adult.  So, either Dad voluntarily pays or his portion comes from the child support or you take him back to court per the court order (which you haven't said what it means when he is ordered to pay) and let a court decide.  If your income has gone up and his has, you may not get as much as you think.  If you have to pay attorney fees, you need to factor that in.  If you have $4K in attorney fees, how much would you need of an increase to cover attorney fees and it be a benefit?  Otherwise, his share of college is child support.  Your child will be at college and not with you so those funds should go to college expenses.

If you feel you are right, simple solution is to take it to court vs. debate a bunch of strangers.

If he has no relationship with the kids and you only call to demand money, what is his motivation to pay?  Would you want to answer a call where you'll get screamed at and demanded for money.

Be reasonable.  Apply to a variety of colleges and see what they offer.  Then say I can pay XXX, financial aid is XXX, child support covers XXX and the remaining portion is XXX.  Child can cover some expenses as well.[/quote]

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