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[quote=Anonymous]Seconding what others have said Hiding or sneaking food is almost always related to feeling restricted (unless there is a hx of pretty significant trauma/abuse). Everyone else has hit the nail on the head but I also wanted to share two easy resources I would follow kids eat in color on instagram (and look at some of her highlights) and Big Little Feelings (and look at their highlight on feeding) and start trying some of those approaches. They will teach you some ways to try these new approaches.

And to add to one of the other posters, I would try not asking questions if you know or are very certain of the answer, because like they said it's very very normal for kids to then say "no" out of kind of fear. Really, really normal. So it will be more helpful for all of you to not get in that situation, just gently say "sweetie I saw you took some candy to your room, you must have been hungry or really wanting that candy today - let's have some candy with dinner tonight okay?" So no shame, increasing access, and letting her know you know about the candy but not asking her to "admit it" because kids are just generally horrible at this - they will self preserve and don't think of it as lying, it's not intentional in that way. But it can feel very hurtful as a parent and then we get even more escalated. [/quote]

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