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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][i]The past 7+ months I've heard the phrase "our kids have already lost so much" countless times. And, my friends, I'm over it.  It's a bit pathetic,  in my opinion, that as adults we are perpetuating the victim mentality for our kids instead of teaching them the art of grit and pivoting in unexpected or challenging times.   Using a current issue as an example, are kids really going to "suffer" if they don't trick or treat? No. Only if WE (the adults) model a "loss" mindset.   What if, instead, families looked at it as a way to plan a really fun evening? Maybe doing a family art project, bobbing for apples in mixing bowls, packaging up sweet treats to door drop for neighbors, creating a spooky themed meal together.    I assure you, if WE (the adults) started finding the OPPORTUNITY instead of inflating the perceived losses, we may actually find that we have opportunities to create lasting memories for our children. They'll remember that year they had a SPECIAL Halloween instead of trick or treating like every other year.  Shift your OWN perspective so we can look back at this time and remember how much our kids (and ourselves) LEARNED during the pandemic, not lost.
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My aunt posted this recently, and I mostly agree.  People acting devastated that their kids can't do what they do in normal years is overly dramatic - if you have a good attitude, the kids won't think it's a big deal. Shield them from seeing social media postings of kids going out trick or treating, and do fun things at home.  We had a "candy hunt" yesterday - Dh and I hid 40 pieces of candy around the house and let our 4 kids go nuts finding them.  That was right before lunch.  Then they could eat candy after lunch while we roasted pumpkin seeds. No, it wasn't as exciting as going out to different houses and seeing everyones costumes, but everything is a bit different this year.  And that's okay - we're staying safe and keeping others safe by staying home.

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The point you're missing is people are saying kids have lost so much because the kids have eyes and can see that adults, if they so choose, have gotten back to life. They go to restaurants and bars, go shopping in stores, go to parties at houses, etc. But the kids can be controlled, and so people place all their anxiety in controlling the one population that has no choice. There was nothing unsafe about trick or treating. The people that forced their kids to watch other kids outside from the window need to get their anxiety in check. [/quote]

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