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[quote=Anonymous]Hey OP, I feel you deeply. I don’t just have one gross mean liar neighbor, but this awful clique that of several women that ostracized me. The story is honestly worthy of a NYT bestseller. We also thought about moving. We did not. A few thoughts:
- Headphones, hat, sunglasses - whatever you need to feel a bit of a physical barrier when walking past these people
- Make no real eye contact or expression, like passing a stranger in the cereal aisle
- Sometimes I do laugh or smile! Remember, if they ever say, what are you laughing at, you have a great answer: “I laugh at jokes.” They are the joke.
- music and singing along aloud, podcast aloud, taking a phone call - the more you get into a place of I’m Doing Whatever I Please, it will both build your confidence and comfort level, and have the side bonus of getting under their skin. 
- Boost your confidence by visibly living your best life in the neighorhood - plant new flowers in your front yard, go for walks in your awesome new coat and bouncy blowout, etc

In my case, it was incredibly cruel and unfair, AND it will never be unfair. I’m 4 yrs out. I have chosen, at this point, to view the situation as a chance for me to grow in confidence and fearlessness. It took me awhile to get here. Let them talk about me, I now see the hilariousness of that - without me, they’d have nothing to talk about. I, on the other hand, have this whole life and world that they’ll never be part of. 
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