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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Amen, 17:20. What the hell is wrong with everyone on here? Throughout my 20s, and even now that I'm in my mid-30s, I regularly was invited to birthday dinners for friends. I never once considered that the person organizing the event was paying for all of us!! We always pay for the birthday girl or boy but then we each pay our own way. We do usually split the bill evenly, which means I'm paying for my friend who consumes 3x more booze than me, but I know that going into the dinner and have learned to just suck it up. And for clarification, we are all highly paid professionals with good manners.

OP, the responses you are getting here are in no way reflective of the way the rest of the world thinks about this subject. Good lord. Enjoy your dinner and don't stress that your friends will assume you are paying or will consider it rude if you don't. They won't. 17:20's wording is perfect. [/quote]

I already posted that it is rude to invite people to pay for an event.  When I was in my 20s, we had large groups go out an pay for big birthday dinners themselves all the time.  But - and this is the crucial distinction - we did not "invite" them to dinner.  One person took on the role of organizing something, and we all pitched in.  It is not the same thing as inviting people to dinner.  [/quote]

I think it's all in the wording.  I normally don't mind at all (and expect to pay my own way) when someone suggests meeting up for dinner to celebrate someone's birthday.  But when I receive an invitation to a nice restaurant, private room, with the banquet menu, I do NOT expect to pay my own way.  This happened recently and I couldn't believe it - friends who are in their mid-thirties, both biglaw. It ended up being $100 for my husband me, and that's not how I would have wanted to enjoy a $100 meal.  [/quote]

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