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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have a team manager?  I'd talk to her/him first.  If nothing happens I'd go straight to the coach.  I don't think your dd should be doing anything in this situation, not her job.[/quote]

What planet are you from? The dd is on the team not the parent. To make it worse she's a U15 not a U10. Stop babying the daughter let her speak up to the team or coach. You the parent are the support of the player and the team. Don't confuse that with being part of the team. Let the players figure it out and if they want the coach to step in ok. It has to come from them not the parent.[/quote]

I agree with this poster. However I just wanted to add, that it depends on your definition of bullying. If she is out there calling girls, fat, ugly, commenting on those kinds of things, for sure have your DD go to the coach. If this other player is criticizing them for bad, fundamentals, bad soccer IQ etc. I'd say, what are those other girls doing to improve their skills outside of practice. I've never been sure why we treat boys and girls different, when I played sports you constantly talked trash to each other, when bad plays were made etc. The solution was you practiced harder, you worked to get better so no one could criticize you. When my daughter was a u-15 I had these kinds of conversations frequently with other parents. Not because my daughter was exhibiting that behavior, but when parents would yell from the side lines etc. They would say a 14 year old girl shouldn't have to deal with that, and I'd tell them, my daughter doesn't consider herself a 14 year girl just a soccer player. I'd recommend their daughters do what mine did, learn to continue playing, without letting it effect them. What if the team your playing has players talking trash, your coach can't do anything about that. What if they are at a large venue and people are yelling and criticizing them.  At u-15 they should be learning the mental toughness required to continue playing.

I mean unless this is REC or something, and the girls are there for fun,friendships and experiences, they should focus on their play.[/quote]

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