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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a really strange situation, so I acknowledge that first. We have a group of mom friends (I know, I hate that term too - call it whatever) from way back when.  Some have boys, some have girls, most in the same age range.  One of the moms is talking about (and preoccupied with) which teens are friends with which, and who could she "get to hang out with" her teen.  Specifically, she was talking about "poaching" a particular teen friend from one of the nice teens.  I though it sounded evil and contorted, and over involved, so I said so. She got really angry with me, and says she (basically has "exigent circumstances" for doing so - we are all in the same boat, so no, she does not). She asked for our opinion, but didn't really want it.  What she was talking about seemed really mean and contrived - like an adult mean girl.  Should I tell the mom of the nice teen what transpired?  This sounds like the mom has some teen score to settle of her own, and I don't think what she is doing is right. Or should I MYOB?  Not sure what to think of a mom who has to know who other teens hang out with - that reeks of ill intent. Sorry if this question seems immature, the situation is. [/quote]

How does one poach a teen friend from someone else? Maybe she was kidding or just being silly talking with people she thought she was friends with? Clearly her kid is struggling otherwise she wouldn’t be worried about this? Is her kid a nice kid? You certainly don’t want to do anything that’s going to hurt her kid.

I think you did your part in telling her how you feel. Nothing more to do from here unless you see or hear of her actually doing something specific to come in between the other two teens with whom she is trying to poach. If you see some thing she’s doing then you should say something to the other parent but otherwise just let it ride out and see what happens.[/quote]

Wait, you are actually saying that it is acceptable for this over controlling mom to steal other kids' friends away?  Why is that okay to you?

PPs have indicated that they have seen this behavior from grown women, so I am curious why you think it is okay? Maybe it is a really special friend to the person being (poached from)?  Maybe the teen is crushed to no longer have what she thought was a good friend - but that is okay, as long as your teen has the friend YOU assign? By getting involved where you shouldn't?

Why is hurting other people okay, as long as your teen is not the one?  As long as you get what you want? Do you see how ridiculous and hypocritical you sound?  Do you see what you are teaching your daughter?

Following your logic, your daughter can be the "other woman" when she gets older, she can break up a family, or any group, because that is what her mom taught her - no one else matters, only her feelings. Because your daughter (no one else) is "special", and you can't be bothered to pay attention to what you really should be doing (hint: NOT micromanaging other people's teens).  You sound really extraordinarily creepy and inappropriate. You don't even see how ridiculous you sound. No wonder your kid can't make their own friends. [/quote]

Holy shit did you forget to take your meds again today?! What a bizarre post. Never anywhere in that post did I condone the mother stealing away anyone’s friend. I told the OP it was good that she called her out on it which I think will curtail any effort on her part. I also told OP that if she sees her doing something she should warn the other mom. Sounds like you need severe mental help and are projecting onto me someone you do not even know.[b] Btw I don’t have a daughter. [/b][/quote]

Then why did you chime in?[/quote]

She said it was a group of boys and girls the same age didn’t she? Regardless the pp’s lashing out is concerning. I surely hope she doesn’t lash out at her children that way. That would be major verbal abuse.[/quote]

That is not what the thread is about.  Way to deflect, though.[/quote]

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