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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We were very thankful to have had our Doula— she was recommended by our practice so knew the nurses, hospital policies, where the warm blankets were (epidurals can make you very chilly...) and was able to articulate many of our preferences to the nurses in a way that was much more professional sounding than “here are some scared first time parents” and as a result we had exactly the birth we wanted.

But you have to know what kind of birth you want and not expect the doula to know for you and deliver your mythical “perfect birth”. For example, I knew I wanted an epidural but knew I wanted to avoid a C Section during COVID, so all of her  advice and actions were geared towards those outcomes.  It also meant I avoided doulas with strong feelings against epidurals or agendas about “natural” birth.  I suggest asking if your practice has a doula or doula practice they recommend, because it was very reassuring to have my doctor see the doula as a welcome part of the team and the nurses see her as help to them rather than on a different team.[/quote]

[i]You think a doula gives you the kind of birth you want? Sorry but no. It’s luck and genetics. Your intentions flr
Delivery count for about 10 percent and your doula doesn’t have much to do with that at all. Does your doula control the position of the fetus?
How fast you dilate? If your baby aspirates meconium or has irregular tracings?[/i]
If your BP shoots up or you get a fever in labor? Women who get the birth they want are often just lucky. Do you think anyone else who has complications wants them? Or got them because they didn’t hire a doula? SMDH. 
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Do you even realize how insane you sound? Keep your mouth shut until you take a class, you have no clue what you're even talking about.  [/quote]

Actually I’ve given birth twice, and had a doula for my first birth that was a waste of a grand. I know far more than you do what I’m talking about. A doula has zero control over the medical complications you will or won’t face in your birth. That’s a fact. They can help with decision making, comfort measures, and hands on and emotional support. But having a doula doesn’t somehow prevent you from getting a fever or high blood pressure, or mean your baby will have regular heart rate tracings, or prevent failure to progress, etc. If you think that you’re the one who badly needs some child birth education FFS. [/quote]

No. One. Thinks. This.  You’ve said your piece. Whomever that will benefit has it recorded. [/quote]

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