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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]if you like order and peace and control- no
if you like chaos and noise and disorder and expense- yes

I had 4 kids (youngest are twins) and my personality was not suited for it.
I'm kinda impatient, like order and some semblance of control, and having 4 kids is kinda driving me into a slight mental breakdown.  There is so much noise and chaos in our house that I can't think clearly, except for when I go to work.
Plus, the older they get, the huge responsibilities of school and saving for college really start to weigh on you.
It also puts a lot of stress on a marriage.

So, if you are super laid back and wealthy- go for it.
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This is, hands-down, the most helpful thing I have read on DCUM. I used to teach, and always thought I wanted four kids, but I hate the mess. Good to hear confirmation from someone who has BTDT that I will be happiest with two. I am neither super laid-back, nor wealthy. [/quote]

I never wanted four. I wanted two, we got twins, they're both girls, and we are so happy. I know everyone has different opinions (our friends are currently in the process of adopting what will be their fourth child and they want to adopt another after that), and there is no universal right answer, of course. But you definitely need to know yourself and your spouse. We like quiet, we like a neat house, we love having money to do the things we value with our kids. One of us would have to work a lot more to live the lifestyle we want if we added two more kids to the mix. Even one would require another good chunk of change so we are great with what we have. [/quote]

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