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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP.  I am in a similar boat, so I have no advice, just virtual support.  We are 36/37, with an amazing 4 year old who is extremely unlikely to have any cousins. I'm clear-eyed about the probability that she won't have a close sibling relationship as an adult even if we were to have another (I'd say my spouse and I both have medium-close relationships with own siblings - no animosity, but not best friends), but I am bothered by the idea of her eventually being completely alone in the world in terms of family of origin.

I will say that the 5 year age gap doesn't phase me, as my siblings and I are very spread out and it actually had a lot of pros in terms of parents' ability to focus on each of us as individuals.

The biggest drawback for me personally is pregnancy and the first year postpartum, both of which were awful for me the first time.  I know, with the benefit of hindsight, that both periods are finite and survivable, but I still have a lot of worries about the impact on my marriage, child, and mental health.[/quote]

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