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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - I’m surprised at the responses that are asking why they are marrying.  I really think it’s because he wants a companion.  Don’t you think it’s overstepping big boundaries to try to talk him out of remarrying?  Did any of you try to talk an elderly parent out of remarrying?  He’s still got all of his faculties, so I worry about how he would take this kind of conversation.  [/quote]

My mom remarried at 71 yrs old. I was a bit taken back at first, but came around and understood. She told me that when you are old(er) that you already know what to look for in a partner, how to navigate life, etc. PLUs, she told me that she and fiance are both retired so life is different compared to me and DH. They are NOT starting a family, not raising a family (BTDT for both mom and fiance), they don't have stressful jobs (both retired obviously), no long commutes to factor in, no financial strain, etc....ALL the things that typically break up marriages or cause strife and stress. 
Further, when you're old and by yourself you really want a companion. Someone more than a meet-up to go to lunch with you, someone more than to just play Bridge with, etc. Someone with you 24/7. Loneliness can be really hard.  Being a 3rd wheel amongst other friends who are couples is really hard. Coming home to an empty house 24/7 for years on end is really hard.  It is hard to imagine or understand unless you yourself have gone years without a partner in-hand. I am so busy with my young family, DH, job, household stuff, activities, errands, etc. that I didn't really understand this concept.
I could go on, but you get the idea.

Anyway, I posted up thread already so I won't repeat, but I did want to add the aforementioned in case it was helpful. [/quote]

No one is not understanding the need for companionship. What we don't understand is the need for marriage, which complicates financial matters greatly. All of what you wrote above can be achieved without marriage.[/quote]

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