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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's hard when people go to the new baby first, but realize that it's an excitement they have been waiting for over the last year too. They care about you, but our society has downplayed childbirth so much and exalted independence and being strong that we forget that birth is a huge recovery. First babies are major milestones and transitions to your world NOT being about you anymore. It isn't easy. A c/s is the only surgery major abdominal surgery where people assume you are good to go for hosting guests less than a week later.

[b]Before letting them talk about the baby, it's okay to say, "Well, baby is doing well, but man, I'm tired and I hope you understand that I am recovering too."[/b]

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I think this is a great idea.

I'm still resentful towards my MIL, FIL and BILs for:

1. Visiting at two weeks and not asking how I was
2. Inviting a relative to join the visit and focusing more on impressing her and feeding her than anything else (hello, nursing mothers are need food)
3. Instead of asking me how I was, yelling at me because she didn't like how I was feeding my baby (not realizing I was following medical advice) and passive aggressively complaining that DDs cribsheets were not feminine enough

I will always remember how they treated me when I needed support more than anything.

It's a good idea to remind people not to be stupid.

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