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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about the parents are never married and the father even did not sign the birth certificate of the child.  The father has been paying child support as otherwise, his wage will be garnished.  The father nerve visit the child or have any kind of communication with the child

Do you think this father's income can be waived?[/quote]

OP here. Honestly not so different from me except we were married. I would hope this family would have some recourse not to have an Expected Family Contribution that includes what's basically a sperm donor.[/quote]

This is why some women pay for sperm donors: the legal barrier is very important. You would have no problem if you'd had an actual sperm donor. Someone who acts like a sperm donor is the worst.  Because honestly, there's no difference between your kids' situation and that of a married couple where one parent says "I don't believe in college and don't want to pay".

The estimated family contribution is based on [b]ability [/b]to pay, not [b]willingness[/b] to pay.

You have gotten some good advice, which will be to focus on schools that have substantial merit scholarships. If you live in MD there are options, too, to prepay a (very good) state education. [/quote]

OP here. Thank you for posting.[/quote]

You're welcome. Rereading, I sound unsympathetic, and I'm really not. I just think you might not realize that this scenario is very common among married people, as well, and has no more of an answer in that situation. My wife's parents refused to pay for any education. She worked retail for years, went back to school as an adult and spent two years at community college, then two more at a four year school, and went on to get a Ph.D. Now she's in a specialized job in her field, and loves it.

There are many paths -- the two years at community college were both a huge money-saver (all we could afford at the time) and a great experience. If you end up having to negotiate this on one low income, you could do a lot worse than encourage your kids to start off in community college! Please don't despair if this situation with your ex means that you can't send them to expensive private schools.[/quote]

Thanks so much for your follow-up. I totally understood what you were saying. I guess that's the difficult part of this. Having to include my ex on the EFC means that my kids will not be able to go to schools they would have been able to go to if he had just vanished. (which essentially, he has) It's tough, and I know people that are in all kinds of situations that have financial challenges and I feel for them, too. I'm a very strong person and a devoted parents and I know my kids will continue to thrive. Thank you for your encouragement![/quote]

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