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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]15:33 here. When I think about what I want my kid to be, I don't think so much about "I want him to be academically advanced" (although, not going to lie, that would be nice)
I think more in terms of: 
[b]I want my kid to be curious, someone who likes and wants to learn because learning is fun. Someone who can creatively problem-solve on his own and try other methods when the first few fail. Who helps other kids understand what's going on/how a concept works because, 'hey this is cool, I want to share my knowledge'. And someone who is comfortable saying "I don't understand, can someone explain this to me?"
I want him to realize that you have to work hard for the things that matter and that just because it takes a few tries, it doesn't mean he's stupid or slow. I also want him to have some self-discipline and stick with things that aren't fun because it's the right thing to do or sticking with it will pay off in the long run. I want him to know how to study and practice, even if it's boring. I want him to try HIS best, not just better than others or 'eh good enough'
I don't want him to be 'gifted' I want him to be a good person. 
Does that make sense? I feel like if I encourage the other traits, academic success will follow.[/b]

Oh, and I'll also be on the alert to make sure he IS adequately challenged at school. I have no problem and fully intend to advocate for him, whether he's labeled gifted, has an LD like his father or is just super into art and not sports. If his school isn't providing enough enrichment opportunities, I'll seek them elsewhere (music and art are very important to me). [/quote]

OP again.  I completely agree with this.  I guess my struggle isn't with the Big Picture, but more specifically with figuring out exactly HOW to do this.

For instance - we definitely focus on praising effort. But I can clearly see I need to do better at it, and I'm not sure how to confront my child's perfectionist tendencies (i.e. she has gotten upset and stated "But I'm not a great X!" when she couldn't do X activity perfectly, even though for her age she is objectively ahead at that task.)

And then there is figuring out how to get her to work hard and stick with things - figuring out how specifically I help instill that trait (though I'm lucky - DH is a great role model for this) without forcing her to participate in an activity she truly doesn't like.  How to help her learn to creatively problem solve, etc., etc.[/quote]

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