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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just filed, so I'll give you my story. Married at 22, pregnant at 35, then husband got "dream job" offer in a different city. We moved when I was 20 weeks pregnant to a city where I knew no one except his sister, who is one of the most-absorbed dolts I've ever had the misfortune of knowing. I struggled mightily, and he didn't care. I agreed to an apartment I didn't like on the grounds that "it'll only be a year," and any time I tried to bring up moving to a different space, he told me I should just be happy where I am. I suffered significant childbirth injuries, and he didn't care. I had no network as I tried to navigate motherhood and recovery from these injuries, and he didn't care. When I finally got a job, he still expected me to carry 100% of the load when it came to kid and home. For 4 years, I struggled every single day, and his only response was "too bad."

I knew I wanted a divorce, but I did not want to do it in the city we were in. And if I divorced him there, I'd be stuck until our kid was 18.

I got a job back in DC (March 2 was my first day, yeah.....). I gave it 6 months and realized, no, I do not love this person. I do not respect him. And he doesn't respect me, despite his claims. So I said "I'm done." My only regret is I didn't divorce him 10 years ago, long before the kid came along, long before I gave up everything for a move that came close to destroying me, when the thought first crossed my mind.[/quote]

Have the kids been with you the last six mos? I assume so, and hope so.[/quote]

We moved as a family at the end of February.  I gave myself 6 months of us all being back in DC before I made any decision about separating. I didn't want to split, because only seeing my child half the time has been brutal. But the relationship wasn't salvageable, for numerous reasons.[/quote]

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