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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i started this thread with the question. thank you everybody. all the comments are appreciated. this topic was not something I would normally discuss with my friends/peers/colleagues or generally with people I know. this anonymous forum is like a real eye opener for me.

[b]I felt like i am doing so much around the house but what I was doing was comparing our family roles to my childhood household which was very traditional/old school dad works out of house and mom took care of everything inside house. different generation[/b]. different time. I thought I was with the times but it seems what i really am is just a little improvement over my out dated family dynamics of a generation ago.

what I learned from your comments is that DW does a tremendous amount that I took for granted. yes the things I do are really just the low hanging fruit stuff. i haven't really put much of a dent into the daily grind that envelopes her day, every day. I need to do better.

i remember a different time, living in small townhouse, newly married, no kids there wasn't really much to do!! but now we are with kids, live in a big house, have so much going on. it is just so much more. my contribution to the house hasn't changed much since those early days even though the work has gone up exponentially.

the other thing I learned (which I knew I did bad but you guys drove the point home) is that I should not have criticized her for the bathroom. we both are usually neat freaks and it bothered me but I was rude for no reason. I should have just cleaned it up myself.

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Would your father really have yelled at your mother if the kids' bathroom was dirty?  He would have yelled at the kids and told them that it wasn't their mother's job.  
That's what you should have done, OP.

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