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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The issue is that you had the nerve to complain or even be rude about the kids’ dirty bathroom. A bathroom, especially a kids’ bathroom, doesn’t stay clean for very long. I clean (wipe surfaces, clean toilet, tidy and put things away, clean floor) our bathrooms on an almost daily basis bc that’s how often it’s needed.  So not only were you wrong to say anything about it, but she probably felt like you don’t notice or appreciate how often she does clean and tidy it. It’s possible she had just cleaned it earlier that same day and then you come along and complain about it being a mess a few hours later. That’s pretty inconsiderate and shows that you likely don’t notice or appreciate many other things she does around the house either.

Next time, do it yourself and then tell her how much you appreciate all that she does around the house bc it’s a lot of work.[/quote]

This.  So much this.

My husband used to do this, and it made me feel so anxious all of the time.  I would never know what thing he was going to be upset and yell at me about.  It seemed perfectly reasonable to him.  In his mind, this was rare and about relatively few things.  In my mind, anything could set him off.  If the clothes hadn't been changed for the season before the weather changes, or we ran out of toilet paper and it wasn't changed, or a child had a runny nose and the pillow case wasn't changed, he might ignore it, or he might be really upset about it.  He also didn't like it if we all had to spend some time cleaning as a family.  I am sure that some women are amazing housekeepers, but I was never able to keep up with all of it.

It always make me laugh when women talk about how stressed they are managing the house, and the responses are that their standards are too high.  These are not MY standards!!!

In my husband's case, he grew up in a blue collar household.  His father was an alcoholic.  He knew that his house was chaotic.  I think that his idea of what a "normal" UMC household should look like came from watching television.  He really thought that I would cook a huge full hot breakfast every morning, and the family would gather together before the kids went to school (he wouldn't be there, of course, because he was at work).  And then the house would remain spotless and in perfect repair without any real effort from anyone in the family.    [/quote]

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