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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] .... None of these are, individually, a big deal. But it does make me feel odd, like I'm being unduly watched.

And no, I don't think I'm a special unique snowflake. But the copycat behavior CAN be unsettling. I think that's because outright copying is outside the norm, and also because it's unacknowledged. There's no "Oh, I love that idea!" or "What a great purse! Where did you get it?" and a normal conversation. She just watches and replicates. [/quote]

Pp. The unacknowledged observations are what I was touching on in my earlier post. If you like something and then copy it you don't have to tell me, but they are personal design choices or unusual fashion styles. When it keeps happening shortly after noticing it in our home or on me it feels weird. And it can be very specific, not like copying a brand of hummus from Wegman's, or whatever the pp on this thread keeps describing.

For example, in our guest room we had a peculiar issue with the height of a side lamp, so I placed it on top of an item you wouldn't normally see there. The next time we visited DH's parents the side lamps were placed on top of the same items. They hadn't mentioned it at our home but it obviously made an impression. [/quote]

Did you write to Martha Stewart to tell her you did your dining room in teal after seeing that in her magazine? Did you note in your wedding program that you went with all-white flowers because Kate Middleton did? Did you call up a colleague to tell her that you now wear sweater jackets because she wears them and they look cozy and polished? Did you tell the church friend that you brought Buffalo chicken dip to your family reunion in another state two months after she brought it to  church potluck?

That's how life works. You see something, you think it looks comfy or pretty or yummy or practical, and you adopt it. Do you Tweet Jennifer Aniston to let her know you took her photo to your stylist? [/quote]

Ha. You're just the one I expected to reply. If you haven't happened to you then you don't get it, which is fine. Carry on.[/quote]

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