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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I want a guy with a good career, makes at least $150k/year, lives alone, never been married, and no kids. I prefer white men, in shape but not too muscular, no tattoos, no facial hair ( a little stubble is okay), and short hair. My lifestyle is having 2-3 kids and being able to live a comfortable life. We would have money to pay for childcare, family vacations, college, etc. [/quote]

I married one of those at almost 32. But he expected me to make at least 100k (which I did) and never stop working ever...[b]no break for kids...none except maternity leave[/b] (which I took only 6 weeks because my job is demanding). We are divorced. Terrible marriage. You need to think differently. Respect and kindness are not on you list. They should be. If they guy is not respectful or kind, his 150k+ salary is not going to give you the "lifestyle" you want. A guy who makes less who cares about what you want as a family might be a better fit. I was 40% of the household income. The man you think you are looking for often also expect women to do two jobs--raising a family and be a working mom with a stressful job--they will not necessarily want to provide it for you. [/quote]

Isn't that normal? My DH is a biglaw partner and also would be very opposed to me taking a "break for kids." [/quote]

Serious question, but what’s the point of a having a partner working all those hours in big law and making all that money if you can’t get off the treadmill ever to take care of your kids when they’re babies?  I don’t get it. [/quote]

Dual income in the low six figures like OP is seeking is certainly doable without killing yourself for your career.[/quote]

Not if you have a long commute. It sucks. Working while kids are little especially is extremely stressful. There is no time for anything. It is a constant slog of work. [/quote]

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