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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I lost my sister extremely suddenly in a shocking manner, close to the holidays, and it was about 2 months before my brain even felt like it was working right. I'd have good days, and then I'd have days where I couldn't even concentrate and I'd get to the end of the day and literally have no memory of what happened that day. Getting showered/dressed/ready for the day sometimes would take 3x as long as normal, and I had absolutely no recollection of where the time went.

I honestly could only start processing my grief after that point, and I was in therapy and joined a grief group (structured for 10 weeks). The grief group helped a lot in terms of having a place to feel my feelings and not neglect grieving, but also being able to truly set it aside when i wasn't in the space to deal with it. It kept me moving through the process but also not in it 24/7.

I would say I felt mostly normal after about 6 months, but it never has stopped that I will sometimes randomly burst into tears when I think of her or something kind of eerie happens. Also if I'm under stress, I find myself stuffing my feelings, and then they will come out in a flood.

I am not much of a crier, or at least I always tried really hard to avoid it, and I learned the importance of letting the crying out when it comes and/or the next appropriate time. It is literally a physical release for your body and emotions and has major benefits to both. If i go too long without crying now (like a 6-8+), I know I am not tending to my emotions well and will try to create safe opportunities for myself to cry because it seems to clear up emotional stress quickly. [/quote]

I'm sorry for your loss. Similar to your joyful moment at the beach. I remember sitting in my livingroom a while after my loss and thinking something random about our houseplants. It occured to me that this was a break in my grief and if there was one moment of relief, more were possinle.[/quote]

I'm pp. Sorry I meant to quote 8:56 poster.[/quote]

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