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[quote=Anonymous]It's hard if you aren't doing what you want to be doing.  I know that you said that you are happy being a SAHM, but that this also wasn't really the plan.  These kinds of "innocent" remarks are most painful when they exploit some underlying feelings you were already having.

I was WOHM for a long time, and when my oldest was an infant, I had him in daycare, and I was working fairly long hours.  I was home with them as much as I could be, but it wasn't enough, and I wasn't in a position to quit.  When people made off-hand remarks about WOHM's, they were really painful.  
Later, I was in a different place in life, and I was working 25 hours/wk from 6am-11am M-F with a 5 minute commute.  My cousin was my nanny, and she was great.  I felt no guilt about working at all.  Most of my friends at the time were Mormon, and they would make explicit, harsh remarks about working moms, about leaving kids with a nanny, etc.  It wasn't painful at all.  I knew that my kids were doing just fine.

TL;DR: Whenever you are feeling this way, there may be a grain of truth in what your friends are saying.  It might be worth looking into changing your circumstances a little if you can.  
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