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I know the issue you are referring to OP. For me it was solved by communication. Instead of expecting DH to know what to say, I had to tell him what I needed to hear or do. It’s not as sexy as a man just knowing what to do, but over time he will get the hang of it. You just have to vulnerable and say honey I need you right now, I could really use a hug. Or can you please tell me that everything will be alright. DH loves you, but he is still learning you. Just share how you work with him, without a lot of pressure, and let him know you appreciate him. Good luck![/quote]

I have found it surprisingly satisfying to ask for what I want.  The expectation that someone else should just know what I want when I'm upset came from a belief that I didn't deserve to be cared for.  I do deserve that and so do you but you still have to say how.  In a time of disaster do you want to be told that everything is going to be all right?  Or do you want him to agree that everything is a disaster?  Do you want him to say he'll take care of everything when you both know that's impossible?  There are no right answers which is why silence seems like a good strategy.  So, again, tell him what you want. [/quote]

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