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[quote=Anonymous]As a society we have such a hard time taking other people's perspectives. Is it lack of imagination? Brainwashing? Who knows. I married young and had kids young and have no regrets. But I absolutely can imagine a person deciding that's not for them and having a full and rich life. One of my older relatives is gay, doesn't have a partner, but has a vast and supportive friend community. He's elderly but has never been alone. He had to chart a different course (or so he felt) because of the era in which he grew up, but maybe straight people can take a page from the lgbtq+ community and recognize that unmarried doesn't have to equal lonely or isolated. Maybe he would have married a man if he had been born a few decades later, but he's happy with his choices. I also have friends who are single parents by choice. They wanted a baby but not a partner. I have friends who have dogs but no kids, kids but no pets, partners but no kids, etc. We all get one life. Make the best choice for you at that moment in time. Give yourself the flexibility to revisit your decisions. If you don't have a biological child and later decide you wished you had had kids, you might decide to engage with kids in some other way. People foster kids, adopt, spend time with nieces and nephews etc. We all will have a couple regrets in life at one point or another, but we muddle through and try to accept that we did the best for ourselves given what we felt to be true at that point in time. We certainly don't need to waste time deciding what will make other people happy or judging their choices. And by the way, I may be married with kids, but I have lots of single friends, childless friends -- we all hang out, they're an important part of my life. We can all look out for one another! [/quote]

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