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[quote=Anonymous]A neighbor I use to have adopted three from Russia a sibling set.  All three names were changed but the boys fought it and would talk to each other in Russian.

The mother who should never have been able to adopt because she is abusive refers to them 5+ years later as her adopted russian children.

The agency and some stupid book they read about adopting kids from russia said they should change their names, only allow them to speak English and so forth.

Its the saddest thing I have seen.  They weren't adopted to be loved on.  She adopted older children so they could take care of her.

In any case I have a good friend who works in a social work field who visits Russian orphanges says these kids are told that to be adopted you have to want to be American if they want to be adopted by Americans.  They are told what a good live they will have in America.  Many children who were abused, neglected and basically unwanted strive to be in America.

Not all families are like the one I mentioned.  Yes these three still have a russian accent.  The oldest speaks Russian even though he is punished when he does.

I imagine the OPs neighbor has just had the child in the home and is learning just what work it is.  Some of kids come over here and test new parents to see if they will be sent back.[/quote]

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