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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I admit, whenever I see a woman married to a "good guy" and by that I mean, someone desirable and high quality with good character, well respected and an overall decent guy, I am envious. It is challenging to meet and date these types of guys so if she is one who manages to get and settle down with one, I consider it an accomplishment.[/b] Having 1 or 2 well adjusted kids rates her success even higher.

I do not think it is an accomplishment to marry or procreate with low quality guys. I guess its biology. Women choose to mate with the highest quality man possible. Those who can are winners.[/quote]

It's not hard if you meet and settle down right after college or before late twenties.[/quote]

This is true. In my observation, these guys are the first to exit the dating scene and marry college GFs or the girls they meet upon graduation. I also suspect the longer someone has been in the dating pool, the more damaged or broken they are. [/quote]

I basically agree, but I think there's a good pool of guys until the mid to late 20's. Most good guys get nervous about approaching 30 without getting married so they can start a family. Any guy who's still single by early to mid 30's is usually damaged. Avoid any guy who's 35 + and never been married, unless they were in a 10 year coma or something else extreme.[/quote]

What about guys in their 30s and forties who are divorced? [/quote]

That's a mixed bag. Some of them are decent guys who made a mistake, learned from it, and now want to get married again and start a family. Some of them are damaged, bitter guys to avoid. There's usually something wrong with guys who reach 40's and never had kids. They had plenty of time to figure that out if they were serious about it.[/quote]

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