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[quote=Anonymous][quote]The chances of having a severe allergic reaction without actually ingesting the allergen is minuscule.[/quote]

There are multiple cases in which teenagers have died after kissing a boyfriend or girlfriend who had eaten peanut butter earlier in the day.  Here is a list of recent food allergy related deaths:
https://nonutsmomsgroup.weebly.com/blog/remembering-those-we-have-lost-to-food-allergies

I have no idea if a dairy allergy is the same.  Do you?  Are you an allergist specializing in food allergies?  Do you know the medical history of the OP's nephew?  If it were you, would you be willing to bet your kid's life on it just so people could enjoy their cheese or ice cream?

Yes, it's important not to freak out an allergic child by telling him or her, "You're going to die."  But you also can't minimize it because you are afraid to acknowledge the potential danger or inconvenience other people.  A college student died because he ate his allergen and went to deal with the anaphylaxis in private - he didn't want to inconvenience his friends, and he died.  People on planes have booed children because the airline made a no nut announcement, and people can't deal with being inconvenienced by not being able to eat peanuts or nuts during a two-hour flight.  Do you think that is okay?  Have we as a society really come to a point where a person's convenience is more important than a child's life?

So many times I see parents telling themselves that it's not that bad, the allergy is not severe enough to cause anaphylaxis.  Guess what?  Before my daughter almost died from anaphylaxis, we thought her peanut and tree nut allergy was "mild."  Her reaction took us completely by surprise.

The fact is that none of you know how allergic the OP's nephew is, or even what his allergies are, because she never bothered to ask her brother what her family could do to help or keep the nephew safe.  Maybe OP's SIL does need treatment for anxiety--many food allergy parents do--but it doesn't change the fact that OP was a jerk.[/quote]

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