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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I married and divorced in my 20s, walking away with one child and a lot of personal trauma. Getting out of a bad marriage intact was really hard, and I have zero interest in ever allowing another person that kind of legal or emotional control in my life again.

I've been in a committed long term relationship with my non-husband for the last 17 years. We have raised my son from my first marriage, and had two additional children together. We're happy and well. I have zero doubts about our commitment to each other, but I have no desire to get married. What would it add to my life? I adore him, he likes me, we share kids and resources. We're well off but not crazy loaded so it's not like we have insane estate planning needs. We're not religious so I don't need to ask for anyone's blessing on our relationship. Our families are fine and life is good and uncomplicated. He would have tied the knot years ago, but is fine staying as-is for my sake. Maybe it's just stupid emotional baggage, but I feel happy and strong and am totally at peace with our situation. If anything, it makes me happy to have found a way around an institution that nearly kicked my @(#*.

[b]I'll add that most of our friends and colleagues assume we're married. I don't advertise our situation, but I'm sure not ashamed of it in any way and enjoy "dating" the man I love. [/quote][/b]

My MIL refers to my BIL’s partner as DIL. Weird and even the partner thinks it’s weird. I think it’s bc MIL wishes it were true and wants to normalize it in her mind.[/quote]

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