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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. So here are a few examples of how he purposefully creates situations where I don’t get my way, in the hopes that it will toughen me up and make me less spoiled.

1) we text a lot daily. We give each other quick responses when possible, and I enjoy the consistency of the conversation. He may take a day off purposefully, because he wants me to be able to want something, not get it, and be ok with it

2) similarly with time spent together. He showers me with affection and attention. He himself enjoys spending a lot of time together. Occasionally he purposefully pulls back for a little bit. He says I need to be able to trust that he is fully in the relationship, and be an adult and deal with the uncomfortable feelings that arise when I sometimes don’t get my way.

Again, I admit I am super duper spoiled, and I feel even more bratty with my boyfriend. The reason being that he shows love to me in ways that are extremely fulfilling to me. I have never been with a man who’s expressions of love make me feel warm to this degree. Because I like to be in control, I want those expressions on command and he sees that, and wants to break that expectation.

No. That’s crappy weird game playing. I thought you were going to say that you had to get everything your way. But it’s just mean to intentionally not text you back or spend time with you to “teach you a lesson.” Who would want to be with someone like that? Those examples you gave aren’t controlling. They are examples of how normal people behave when they’re into someone.

It’s one thing if he’s a person who needs more alone time, and he tells you that as a reason for why he might sometimes not be totally available. But to tell you he’s doing it intentionally so you won’t be spoiled? By what? Affection?

Dump this dude. Now.

Do I just need to show more maturity here?[/quote][/quote]

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