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[quote=Anonymous]I was a driven kid. It was feeling that I had to perform to be accepted. There was no such thing as unconditional love in our home. Children literally have to be accepted in their social structure to survive, so you can put almost any condition on your attention/love/care and they will do what they can to meet it. Don't recommend that approach. Leads to some messed up long-term coping skill, expectations, and relationships when someone equates performing well/being motivated with self-worth and being deserving of love and compassion. Basically, you never know what neuroses those kids are developing that drive really socially-praised behavior, but come home to roost later in life when the double-edged sword cuts the other way. [/quote]
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