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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Me too Op.currently 39yo with 2 kids and hoping for a third, but it is feeling unlikely. I think DH would have been more willing if I had pushed for our second sooner and not felt like we were rushing under the wire with a third now. I adore my kids and being a mom. I want to see them grown to full fledged boring adult ages. I’m satisfied with having had my first at 30, but would have liked my second before 37. It is what is at this point.

Mothers of boys, talk to your sons about deciding to have children (or not.) there is sooooo much accepted ambivalence among men. I think this is why there is so frequently a disconnect about the number is children women want vs their husbands. Men don’t start thinking about it till much later in life. [/quote]

I'm not following you point about sons - can you explain?[/quote]

np but the point is that it's generally men who are "not ready" and don't want to settle down.  Their biological clock doesn't tick as loudly and unless you can find a marriage-ready man all the wanting in the world is not going to let you have kids young.  I had kids late and never heard the clock tick.  I paid the price by having a child with special needs (chromosomal abnormality not detectable in utero).  If I had to do it all over again I would only change the length of time I spent in grad school so plus or minus a few years (Phd).  Also there is no guarantee what kind of grandparents your own parents will make.  My parents are 15 years younger than my ILs but my ILs were much better grandparents.  I think you can only count on the helpful kind if your own parents had that kind of help as models.  Mine didn't.  I had no idea how involved grandparents could be.[/quote]

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