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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sucks to be the kid in this situation, even well into adulthood. I don’t have strong feelings about my step siblings-they are average people but we just never really connected. Our parents married when we were 6, 9, 10, 11, and 15, and we weren’t really raised together.

EVEN NOW, things like weddings, holidays, etc are just frustrating. We even have very little drama or conflict, but we just aren’t all that interested in each other, but yet our parents are STILL, three decades later, trying to play happy family and “blend” us. I don’t hate my step siblings, but I don’t really want to spend several days with them every Christmas, even if I’d like to see my dad. And I’m not really wanting to host all of them, even if I’d like to see just my dad, he doesn’t want to leave his wife at Christmas and she doesn’t want to miss Christmas with her kids in their city.

And we are a family where things have turned out relatively well and I still hate this situation.[/quote]

Maybe try to see your dad alone on nonholiday times [/quote]

Pp here. Wow you just magically solved all my problems! Why did I never think of that?/s

I do see my dad on his own during nonholiday times, but also I’d like to spend holidays sometimes with him. Also, Christmas is when I have leave. Also at play is my dad and stepmom wanting all of us to be together for holidays. It’s exhausting. I’ve already got a mom and a stepdad and step siblings on their side, plus my in laws (also divorced). It makes for very complicated extended family dynamics, even when things aren’t dysfunctional they are still deeply complex when so many people are involved. [/quote]

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