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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is no such thing as a blended family.  Blending indicates homogeny which rarely happens.

I suggest you start by reading stepfamily forums and reading about all the problems that arise.  You have no idea how difficult a path this is.

Second, you and your prospective spouse better have VERY good and cordial relationships with your exes.  If you don't it will make it incredibly hard and all these kids will suffer.

Last but not least, be aware that second marriages that involve children have a 70% failure rate.

Don't get married, just date.  Don't have any more children.  Focus on being the best parent for your child that you can. [/quote]

I love this answer.

The new babies in the new family are usually fine, it’s the first kids that suffer like a Pp said. [b]And the dad always favors his bio kids over his step[/b].[/quote]

NP and I think it's probably an unrealistic expectation that any parent, mom or dad, is going to treat step kids equally to bio kids.  I'm not talking about treating the step kids poorly or not being cordial to them but I just don't think that same bond is going to be there absent exceptional circumstances like full custody from a very young age.  I'm sure it happens sometimes but I doubt it's the norm.[/quote]

Pp here. I don’t think it’s a huge problem for the step parent to not feel that same love for their stepchild, Up until they make new babies with the child’s mom.

As a mom, I couldn’t bear having my partner love one of my children (their bio) more than the other (their step).

Don’t make new babies, OP.

If he was just [/quote]

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