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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don’t have a second child for a child. You have it for you.  [/quote]
But it's a very common thing I hear people say: we wanted him/her to have a sibling so they wouldn't be alone. Clearly a lot of people at least feel bad that their child could miss out on a sibling bond.[/quote]

Absolutely common. We never had a second because of infertility and I heard people say this stuff CONSTANTLY. "I have to have a second now because only children are weird", "I'd rather have none than one because it's not fair to the child to not give them a sibling", and the ubiquitous "you better hurry up! You have to give Larlo a sibling before it's too late!" I think most people plan on having "kids" and don't consciously think through the decision about IF to have a second. It's mostly when they had a difficult experience with their first (pregnancy, birth, or a difficult baby) that they make some sort of comment about how they "have to" have another, then I say "well you could always stop with one you know" and they respond with those types of replies. It's really something if you stop and pay attention to it. [/quote]

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