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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m firmly in the camp that tweens and teens need more time. A lot of time. And if people were more available to kids at these emotional and hormonal moments there’d be less messed up kids.

Little kids hardly recall all the stuff you did and a provider is often down to provide the stimulation and laughter and learning little ones need. [/quote]

I disagree.  It’s not about what a child actively remembers.  It’s about emotional security and the needed engagement of the early years that creates brain connections and learning.  This can be achieved with an involved SAHP, a good nanny, or a good daycare.

After that, it’s a natural part of human development to become independent from your parents.  If I had stayed home with my child during middle school and now in high school, I still wouldn’t have more time with her as she has always been involved in after-school sports, second language enrichment and her friends.

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DP. I am around lot of teens. I can't tell who was in daycare, had a nanny, had a SAHM, etc. when they were little. I CAN tell who has engaged parents when they are teens, but this has nothing to do with whether they have a SAHM or not.

Stop trying to create mommy wars OP. [/quote]

This, I was a day care kid and thankful as my mom hated being a mom (and grandma).  I love being home with mine.  Engaged involved parents make a huge difference.  Kids who knows their parents will be there.  Kids who knows their parents will meet their needs.[/quote]

Kids can know their parents will meet their needs without having one SAHP.  I grew up with both parents working as doctors (physician and surgeon) and had both a loving and wonderful nanny (who I’m still close to) and very involved grandparents.  My needs were lovingly met and I excelled in both school and creating a very happy life for myself.

I can’t begin to describe the enormous pride I felt, especially of my mother, in social or school events.  I’m still proud of her!  Growing up watching her make beds or clean the bathroom doesn’t compare to knowing she saved lives and was still there for me. [/quote]

Ditto. I’m proud of my mom for working (though she didn’t save lives), using her brain, and balancing work and family with elegance and grace. She thought about bigger things than the latest gossip and who’s kids are screwing up or pumping me for news about the high school social scene! Lol[/quote]

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